What is codependency?
Codependency is a complex behavioral pattern that can develop in relationships. This type of behavioral pattern can turn a relationship into something problematic, and it can make people pursue, form, or maintain a one-sided relationship that can turn into an emotionally draining and destructive affair. In the worst cases, the relationship becomes abusive for those involved.
This behavioral pattern often springs from a relationship where one person has a mental or physical illness, addictions (drugs, alcohol, gambling, etc.), or psychological problems. Codependent people are often obsessed with getting approval from others. They also feel a need to be needed by the other person, have a tendency to fear abandonment, and forget their needs and boundaries to the point that they start to tolerate being taking advantage of by the other.
Here are some signs that point to a relationship being codependent:
- Either side or both have an obsession with the relationship
- Either side or both have a tendency to control the other person, whether their conscious about it or not
- Either side or both have an unhealthy, desperate need for the other to approve of and acknowledge them
- There is no good sense of intimacy
- There is no good sense of boundaries
- Communication is poor
- Either side or both are dishonest with what they’re feeling











